I learned a valuable lesson yesterday. I learned that even if people tell you to be honest with them and when you do tell them the absolute truth, they can not handle it and will try hard to pin it back on you. They will start bad mouthing you and labeling you as jealous , crazy or miss know it all.
A colleague asked me that why does her boss did not have faith in her? This was not her first or second time to ask me this question, therefore, I thought in my 4t plus naivety that she may really want to know so that she can address the problem and work toward it. I asked her that she wants the honest answer or just an encouraging one, she said that she wants an honest one (I do have a witness). So I did tell her and heaven went loose.
The way I see it, some people keep making the same mistake over and over again and never find out why they do not succeed in what they are doing. My philosophy is that if I see the problem, it is my civil and humane responsibility to tell them. That way they will think about it, and if it is correct, then they plan an action. Never in my mind I saw myself as an evil person, on the contrary, I thought that I was doing them a favor. Mind you this is after they ask my opinion. Of course that this rule does not apply to 4teens! I have never seen a reaction this severe from any one in any circumstance before.
Well I shared my experience with the older 4teen and she told me that maybe at 40t+, I am getting wiser a bit and starting to get it. People do not like honesty, they like to see what they like to see, why rock the boat and be the bad person to break them the news.
Indeed why?
