Retributions feels good and sweet. It satisfies the famous ego of one and brings a heartwarming smile to our faces. God knows that I have felt this way many many times, but my conscience is clear, because I did not cause the feeling of distress, I was just glad that justice was done. However, last week a friend encountered a situation that it made me wonder about the nature of retribution. How exactly does it work. And yes, it did happen to a friend!
I believe that the balance of the world is always maintained at all points of time. In order for one to get something, someone else must lose it, otherwise the harmony is lost. If the misery of one person makes me happy, because he feels the same way that I felt before by something that she inflicted on me, then sadly enough, when I am miserable, someone else is cheering because of the same exact thing that I did to her. And that did surprise me! How can I cause pain, mind you sometimes not even physical, on anyone. How can I be so unthoughtful or spiteful? And the answer is that sometimes we are, even without knowing.
There are times that we do the same thing to other people, because we choose to. We want to get even, and to treat them exactly like they treat us. We want them to feel the pain and the distress that they have caused. Very consciously we seek revenge and it is not to be confused with retribution. With that being said, I do admit that at times I have hurt someone's feeling, not because I wanted to but because I had to. As odd and unbelievable as it sounds, it was the best choice under those circumstances, the lesser evil of two evil choices. The intention was not to be hurtful, but it was hurtful nonetheless. And when karma gets back to me under similar circumstances, I do not like it, but I do get it.
But there are times that we do things without even knowing, thinking, contemplating. We do not mean to be hurtful, but we are. No one can deny that this has never happened the them, we have all done this and continue to do unless we make a conscious effort not to.
The bottom line is that what comes around, goes around. Every time you cheer when someone pays for the justice that is done for some wrongful act toward you, remember the days that you are miserable, because there is a big chance that justice is done for someone else because of you!!
The way I see it, retribution is a two way street. Even the holy and saint me have to pay for somethings at some times.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Monday, March 16, 2009
Birthday Senses
I did not realise how long it is since I last wrote, but it feels good to share some observations again, in particular as a tribute to my birthday 4teen++ girl.
Every happening in our lives makes us feel various emotions like happiness, sadness, loneliness, holiness, million dollars..... and I believe that you get the drift. This weekend I realized that some events in life can be felt otherwise, like not by intangible feelings, but by our very keen and God given five senses. Senses like sound, touch, scent, taste and sight.
4teen turned 21st last weekend and I, being a novice in this country who experience a lot of things in life in a delayed time line, realized that in this country 21st BD is more important than 18, the age that you are considered an adult who can vote, buy lottery and legal to be a responsible citizen without compromising parent involvement, by all the adolescents. I amazingly realized this weekend that for the adolescent the birthday number 21 simply TASTES different. The feeling of exhilaration for this birthday lies in line with the fact that they are legally able to drink alcohol and that is why it tastes different. However, I can not attest if this taste is deliciously better or worse.
Yes of course my poor child had no clue what alcohol looked like and how it tasted before last weekend, but all of a sudden, the self esteem has gone up by many degrees and there is a sense of Independence that has been created by this alcohol related BD. It does not matter that parents still pay for expenses, the fact that they can just drink, is enough to be a grown up for them.
The way I see it, 21st BD's taste is different from other birthdays on many levels. For some it tastes better, for some worse, but no matter how it tastes, the reality stills remain that they are growing old and the carefree days are getting closer to an end and that means more responsibility and accountability. Oh my God, do not remind me, I need a drink myself right now!
Every happening in our lives makes us feel various emotions like happiness, sadness, loneliness, holiness, million dollars..... and I believe that you get the drift. This weekend I realized that some events in life can be felt otherwise, like not by intangible feelings, but by our very keen and God given five senses. Senses like sound, touch, scent, taste and sight.
4teen turned 21st last weekend and I, being a novice in this country who experience a lot of things in life in a delayed time line, realized that in this country 21st BD is more important than 18, the age that you are considered an adult who can vote, buy lottery and legal to be a responsible citizen without compromising parent involvement, by all the adolescents. I amazingly realized this weekend that for the adolescent the birthday number 21 simply TASTES different. The feeling of exhilaration for this birthday lies in line with the fact that they are legally able to drink alcohol and that is why it tastes different. However, I can not attest if this taste is deliciously better or worse.
Yes of course my poor child had no clue what alcohol looked like and how it tasted before last weekend, but all of a sudden, the self esteem has gone up by many degrees and there is a sense of Independence that has been created by this alcohol related BD. It does not matter that parents still pay for expenses, the fact that they can just drink, is enough to be a grown up for them.
The way I see it, 21st BD's taste is different from other birthdays on many levels. For some it tastes better, for some worse, but no matter how it tastes, the reality stills remain that they are growing old and the carefree days are getting closer to an end and that means more responsibility and accountability. Oh my God, do not remind me, I need a drink myself right now!
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