Life is amazingly hilarious. As I age, I have started to realize that there is not much difference between me at 4tplus and a 4teen year old person. I believe that this is why most parents fight with their teenagers, not because they are different. On the contrary. They fight because they are very much the same and alike. Here is how I see it:
We both have active hormones that make us do weird stuff all the time. Mine is called menopause and theirs puberty.
We both are still growing, they taller and I sideways.
We are both distracted and forgetful; theirs is age related and guess what? So is mine!
They dye their hair to be hip; I dye mine to look young.
We are both bossed around, they by their parents and me by both parents and kids!
We both think that we know more than the other and assume the worse of each other, they consider me ignorant and I think they are boorish.
They are trying to find themselves and make sense out of life, and the thing is so am I!
We both have our own special attitudes, but I consider mine right and theirs wrong. Apparently so do they!
The bottom line is that I still am learning and growing inside and out. Isn’t that how they are? I still have difficulty making sense of many things that happen to me and the world on a daily basis. I am still not sure if my career is the right one, or I have the right husband. I don’t even know how good or bad of a job have I done as a mother. Aren’t they that insecure? Has much changed between 4t and 4teen?
6 comments:
I am 47 and As I read your posting I realized how true and valid they
are. I also have teens and I fully understand they are developing their
characters and who they want to become. I agree with you that we too are
growing every day to become the better version of ourselves, better
parents, better daughters of aging parents, better wives, better
employees. We have to hope that this growth on both sides will
ultimately bring us closer.
The comment that was previously posted by me, was sent to my personal email, by a dear friend, in regards to this writing. She asked this to be shared.
I must said that our children had our + our couple characterrs and mostly raising up in a differ surrounding in all means, this mixture makes us different.
I said : if our children at at 4t will be better than us in all means, we can be proud of ourself because we were excellent parent/
Dear Gadi,
I can not agree more!
cote from Bible "what do you have is presious and you should be thankful to God" - there are alot of parents dont think like you- 4teen are pin in the ...,I think that you have Wisdom and big heart.
small advise from 4tplus who loks like 4teen- don't take them toooo much serious
4T,
As a mom myself I have to say that I agree with you 100%. I am not totally sure sometimes if the paths that I have choosen in my own life as well with my son are correct. But like you said as parents we are still learning and growing. Therefore, we can only do our very best and in the end just hope and pray that the road we have choosen is the correct one.
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