4t and 4teen had an interesting discussion. 4t believes that the 4teen should be grateful for the privileged life that they have provided for 4teen, and 4teen believes that 4t should be thankful that 4teen is a good 4teen and is present in 4t’s life.
The truth of the matter is that 4t (me) is thankful for the presence of the 4teens in my life. After all, many of the first things that I have done in my life were with them: My first football game, tubing, ice cream sandwich breakfast, barf cleaning, broken head, silly movies, Iming .…
Because of them I have seen places that I would have never gone under normal circumstances and noticed things that were stranger to my eyes. Because of them, my house is fuller with all kinds of people, loud different music and laughter. Holidays are being celebrated in a new tradition and the word enjoyment has found various meanings. Because of them, I have befriended many whom I did not have anything in common and ended up becoming good friends.
Because of the 4teens, I have reached deep into my soul and have truly understood the pain and sorrow, as well as pride and joy that I have caused my parents and this makes me feel closer to them and identify with them. The scary part is that I never knew that one day I will be repeating the same words that my parents told me when I was a 4teen.
I think there is retribution in life after all!!
I am growing with my children as I grew with my parents when I was a child, and later with society as I was exploring my individuality. Who I am now, is also connected to them as the circle of life is being completed. I never knew that I had it in me to be selfless and put someone else ahead of myself, or could cry deeply when someone else is in pain. I did not know how committed I was to my ideas and morals, as my beliefs and convictions are being tested all the time.
And finally, I am grateful for my 4teens for whom I have become after being their mother. If they did not want so much, I would have not pursued my higher education to get a better job to earn more money so that I can help provide for the wants. Because of their wishes, I have become more creative so that whatever I can not buy with money, I can obtain by other means. Because of their requests, I have become, resourceful, understanding and capable, always pushing myself an inch further and I feel ten feet taller.
7 comments:
Well Well Well.... there is a God. There is a just world. I am one of the 4teens. The daughter, as a matter of fact and i think its fabulous that you broadcasted to the world on your blog how thankful you are of having kids just like us. We knew it!
Anyhow, thanks for the credit. We learn just as much from you as you do from us, we just dont have a blog to advertise it on. Thanks for all your support and help. And heres to a whole new school year of learning for you. LOVE U
very very interesting. Everything you wrote in your blog is true and you said it so nicely. Good luck to you. There is so much to learn from the 4teen. Well done.
thats how life is :) gotta learn from ur teens!
Thanks again for another insightful blog. I have to agree with you that as I get older and my expecations from my children become more evident, I have even more respect for my mom. It's no easy task. I hope my children have the wisdom to see that all we want is their true happiness and we are there to help them.
Well, mission accomplished!! the 4teens read what I had to say. They are happy with the compliment and i am happy that they got the point!!
4t,
I am glad to read that you are a person that can admit the good that comes out of having kids and learning from them. Not too many people can do that. I feel the same way about my child. I am very happy for you.
Before I was married, I had a hundred theories about raising children and no children. Now, I have three children and no theories.
- John Wilmot
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