Dreams on sale

I know this Irish lady for a while now, but never had a chance to learn about her private life until a few days ago, and that is indeed odd for me, because if I like someone, and I definitely like her, I make my business to know their business! Or maybe because she was always a jolly person and had always something new and interesting to discuss and we never got to private matters, although she knew all about my mother in law!

The other day she told me that she was getting a divorce and I was dumb folded, because she never showed any sign of stress or distress over any marital problems, in fact she just came back from Ireland with her soon to be ex-husband after visiting family and friends on vacation. To make a long story very short, her marriage was staged only to get her into this country and to get her the citizenship. Now after a bit over six years, the mission is accomplished and she has what she wants and off everyone goes on his way. She said that the arrangement was done mutually and now that she has achieved her dream, and dream she meant, and he his money, they are part as friends without any resentments.

And it got me thinking about dreams and how much are we willing to pay for them, or better yet, how do we pay for them, and does the end justify the mean. Her dream cost her six years of her life plus some US$ and she seems elated. What is the price of a dream? Do dreams ever go on sale? Is the price paid in real money or real effort? Paying with money is the easy part, but what about those that pay in time, life and effort? I know many others who are still paying for their dreams and they are not yet accomplished, and they still do not want to give up. I know for myself, that I had many dreams, some came true and some still work in process, but at times I wonder if the dreams were worth paying that much? Or why did I not work on the unaccomplished dreams instead of the accomplished ones? Do our dreams change their importance at different phases of our lives? Do we sometimes set unattainable dreams for ourselves so that we can get going, because we love to dream?

And saddest of all is that we have things like US citizenship at our finger tips that we take for granted, and yet it is such a dream for someone else. It makes me wonder what this citizenship means to her that I have not figured out. Where is she taking this dream that I don’t know about? Are my dreams more complicated than others? And in this are my self revelations.

The way I see it, if we want something really bad enough, we will focus and go for it, like the gal from Ireland who really dreamed to be a US Citizen and she paid her dues and she became one. If the dream is for real, no price is too high and no obstacle is an issue. My dreams on hold are my fault for not going after them ferociously as if my life depended on it. I can lie to you and not to myself, because I know that whatever I wanted in life and achieved it, the price was never the issue, because I made it work. Now if it was worth it, then that is a whole new story.